Do you ever find yourself wondering why you are still unmarried? Perhaps marriage has been a goal of yours for the past five, ten, twenty years of your life – or even longer. You wake up each morning wondering whether you will ever have someone to share your life with. You find yourself staring into the mirror and wondering whether there is something wrong with you. You wonder if things would be different if you were taller, shorter, slimmer, muscle bound with a six pack, had more money, had fewer issues, had a better job – the list goes on and on. It is so easy to beat yourself up because your dream relationship has not materialised yet.
I have news for you. You don’t have to be perfect to be married. Just looking around at some of the married people you know should tell you that. Reject the mindset of ineligibility. Don’t count yourself out, because what you honestly believe about yourself becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. You may have made some mistakes and, yes, there may be some issues in your life. Acknowledge your challenges but put them in perspective. They are not insurmountable. You are valuable but you need to see yourself as such. Confidence is attractive; don’t sell yourself cheap just because you have scars. God loves you and He is able to lead you to someone who will love you for who you are.
While you don’t need to be perfect, there are three things you need to be to make the best of the moment.
Prepared
The time to prepare for a relationship is not when you are already in one. Preparation is never wasted. When preparation meets opportunity, wonderful things happen. What you do today can position you better for a fulfilling relationship tomorrow. Invest in knowledge that will help you make the best of a future relationship. Nobody is born with the knowledge they need to make a success out of love. Don’t assume that you will naturally know what to do in a relationship when the opportunity presents itself. Enrich your mind by reading good material on relationships, attend seminars and talk to people who have gone ahead and learnt a thing or two. You can never have too much knowledge on a subject.
Positive
Don’t give in to a negative mindset simply because you don’t yet have the relationship you desire. There is no point comparing your life with others because we are all on a personal journey with God. Stay positive and try to live a full life where you are. Don’t retreat into your shell and wait for love to find you. Get out there and give love wherever you can. Be a blessing to someone else. We live in a broken world where so many people are crying out for love. You have so much love to give – don’t wait for a spouse before you share it. Make someone else’s life better today. When you sow love, you will reap love in more ways than one.
Prayerful
Staying prayerful helps us to maintain a godly perspective on life. There is a void in your heart which no human companionship can fill. Talk to God consistently and constantly. He knows your feelings even before you express them and He holds the masterplan for your life. Prayer keeps our hope alive until we receive the promise. It keeps us energized even when the world around us is caving in. God loves you unconditionally and He cherishes the time you spend with Him.
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