Welcome to

a stronger relationship.

Whether you’re single, dating, or married, navigating the challenges of love can be difficult, but you don’t have to do it alone. I’m Tomi Toluhi and, for over 25 years, I’ve been helping individuals and couples like you design and nurture meaningful, long-lasting relationships. Drawing from my own 36 years of experience in love with the same man—29 of those in marriage—I’ve learned what works and what doesn’t, and I’m committed to sharing those insights with you. Welcome to a place where you can build lasting, fulfilling relationships.

Welcome to

a stronger relationship.

Whether you’re single, dating, or married, navigating the challenges of love can be difficult, but you don’t have to do it alone. I’m Tomi Toluhi and, for over 25 years, I’ve been helping individuals and couples like you design and nurture meaningful, long-lasting relationships. Drawing from my own 36 years of experience in love with the same man—29 of those in marriage—I’ve learned what works and what doesn’t, and I’m committed to sharing those insights with you. Welcome to a place where you can build lasting, fulfilling relationships.

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About Tomi Toluhi

Through my workshops, coaching sessions, and Youtube Channel, TomiTalks TV, I provide practical advice that you can apply right away to improve your communication, foster intimacy, and strengthen the foundations of your relationship. My books, such as Get Real: The Myths and Realities of Finding and Keeping Love and One: Launch a New Love Affair With Your Spouse, are filled with real-life wisdom designed to help you succeed in love.


I also understand that one of the biggest sources of stress in relationships is money, which is why I created the Financial Harmony Program. This program will help you and your partner understand how you both approach finances, giving you the insights needed to communicate more effectively and reduce tension.


Over the years, I’ve shared these strategies at major conferences, church events, and seminars, and I’m a certified SYMBIS Assessment facilitator for couples preparing for marriage. My goal is simple: to give you the skills to build the love and relationship you’ve always wanted. Ready to take the next step? Take my free Money Languages Quiz and be added to my email list for updates, or watch TomiTalks TV for more tips and advice. You can also connect with me on Facebook or Instagram—let’s start building something great together.

Success Stories

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"Tomi saved my marriage by changing my perspective around things I saw in a negative light."

- Tineal de Wet

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"Tomi’s marriage coaching saved my marriage from hitting rock bottom. Today, my marriage is seven years old still counting. I would highly recommend her work to anyone looking to strengthen their partnership."

- James Samuel

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"The marriage counselling I received with Tomi has helped me place a lot of difficult things in perspective, which could have cost me our marriage, I’m now enjoying being happier with my wife with a better-equipped toolbox to work from. Well recommended, and worth the investment." 

- Michael Mingoes

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"Tomi’s ability to relate to an audience whilst clearly communicating hope, tenacity and character is rare and to be treasured!What a rare and precious gift we have in the ministry of Tomi Toluhi!"

- Kika Ashanike 

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"Tomi helped me to learn my money language and how it relates to my partner... we felt it was a timely message which would help strengthen our marriage." 

- Tuny

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" Tomi's talks are incisive and practical, lots of take home messages to act on In addition it made us see key areas of previous disagreement and how to overcome them." 

- Rev (Dr) Osagie Joe Omofuma

Latest Media

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Questions to ask before and after you say 'I do'

By Tomi Toluhi • March 22, 2025
The decision of who to marry is potentially one of the most important decisions you will ever make in your life. Who you marry will significantly impact upon the outcome of your life - who you become, what you can accomplish and how fulfilling your life will be. Here are six crucial questions that you should ask before and after you say "I do."
Tomi Toluhi on the Analytic Money Personality

The Analytic Money Personality and the Security money language

By Tomi Toluhi • March 22, 2025
Welcome to the world of the Analytic where money means security. Saving and planning for the future are the focus of the Analytic’s financial agenda. Money is seen as a means to protect them and their loved ones from life’s difficulties and prepare for the future.
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The Amiable Money Personality and the Love money language

By Tomi Toluhi • March 22, 2025
Welcome to the world of the Amiable where money means love. Relationships and people are the focus of the Amiable’s financial agenda. Money is seen as a means of expressing love and affection to others.
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